Clit Tips
BY ALEXA RODRIGUEZ PAGANO
Everyone has various levels of experience when it comes to sexual pleasure; some who have found their own clit, some who haven’t yet but have tried to, some struggling to find their partners’, some who maybe haven’t cared to look!
I know the topic of finding the clitoris may be daunting for some, or even be the cause of some frustration. Perhaps you’re reading this with full confidence that you’ve found it already and can make someone (or yourself) cum in a matter of two seconds. Regardless of your identity or sexual background, finding the clitoris can be difficult, but it isn’t impossible. Let me assure you that the clitoris, whether it's yours or hers, is not as elusive as you may think. "Let me assure you that the clitoris, whether it’s yours or hers, is not as elusive as you may think." Now, before you go diving in down there hoping for some magical and blissful discovery, here are some tips that will hopefully lead you to the pot of gold. 1. WHERE IS IT AGAIN? I understand that not everyone is an expert on the female anatomy, but it would help if you are familiar with the vulva and vagina in all their glory and of course with your partner. When looking straight on, above the vaginal opening, you can see the labia minora and just above that should be where the clitoral glans is located. Think of it as tracing your finger straight up from the vaginal opening to right below the pubic bone, and jackpot! You’ve found the clitoris. 2. AROUSAL IS VITAL Confidence is great and all, but just sticking your hand down there in the Mojave Desert won’t get you very far. It’s all about the preparation. Hopefully by now, you or your partner knows what gets you going. Having some lubrication and getting turned on, and not faking it, will really aid in finding the clitoris. When turned on, blood rushes to the clitoris making it larger and more prominent than any other part of the vulva. Once everything is in motion and the juices are flowing (the wetter the better), you should know because the clitoris becomes hard and more flushed, letting you know it’s ready for some fun! 3. TAKE YOUR TIME Careful, now! The clitoris is extremely sensitive once turned on, so take your time figuring out what is enjoyable. Build suspense, moving from the inner thighs, working your way to the inner labia and slowly arriving at the clit. If fingers are involved, find a comfortable position so that the vaginal opening and clit can be stimulated simultaneously. Everyone is different and some things work better for people than for others, but I have never heard one person tell me that direct and vigorous clitoral contact is ideal without first warming up. Remember, slow and steady wins the race! 4. EXPERIMENT AND COMMUNICATE The same thing might not work each time, but play around and find out what does and what doesn’t consistently work. Maybe you are more sensitive to the left or to the right of your clit, but you do not know that until you have lots of practice. Don’t be afraid to try some new things out now and then, whether that may be nipple stimulation along with clit stimulation or a new sex toy. If you are with a partner, keep open communication! Some days, you may like something better than the other day you were experimenting. Always let your partner know what is working and what isn’t, and maybe throw some helpful guidance out there, as well. 5. HAVE FUN! Finding the clit shouldn’t be a frustrating or dreadful experience. It should be about having fun, receiving or giving pleasure, and maybe resulting in an orgasm… or two… or three (if that’s what you want). Happy clit hunting! ;) |